As an Aspie guy, married for 19 years, I would plus you if we had karma here for sheer courage. And a decent percentage of what you expressed made sense. It sort of followed the path that I took with my soon to be wife at the time, attraction, comfort, seduction albeit with the caveat that she knew I was looking for a commitment and not a "wham, bam thank you m'am." Plus I was older than a lot of the aspie males who piss and moan about how unfair the relationship game is. "Oh why can't I find a girlfriend?", "Oh woe, why can't I get laid?", yadda yadda yadda. Over several forums and the same weeping and wailing and lamentation. To me it's hard work to build an independent life, feeling confident enough to NOT push the issue and just being yourself.

Ladies, whats your take?